Expectations can be good and they can help us achieve and reach for the best.
But unrealistic expectations can kill you, just like how it killed my sister's friend. I happen to know him too and I do feel it's such a waste for him to end his own life just because of others' expectations.
Out of respect for the dead, I will not name the person. I have a point to drive across.
Sometimes people (parents, teachers, mentors) place high expectations on us. It becomes so stressful and some of us would choose to end our lives.
When expectations become a burden, we must sound out. We must tell those who set the expectations on us. We must tell them that the expectations are UNREALISTIC. We must tell them the expectations are taking a toll on us, and NOT suffer in silence and then choose death.
How do you know when the expectations are unrealistic?
1. The outcomes of the expectations are DESIRED BY THOSE WHO SET THEM, and not desired by you at all. You are just helping them fulfill th expectations.
2. When you constantly try your best but yet fail to reach THEIR expectation.
3. You feel stressed out at trying and trying and negative, detrimental or suicidal thoughts come into your head.
4. When you know that even if you fulfill that expectation, somehow you wouldn't be happy at all.
So when you realise you are setting yourself up against unrealistic expectations SET BY OTHERS, you must immediately save yourself. Do not keep trying to bluff yourself that the expectations are good for you, when they are not.
Come out of it. Stop trying if the expectations are unrealistic and unhealthy. Otherwise you would soon see yourself trapped in a corner. DON'T suffer in silence. Tell those who set unrealistic expectations. Tell them to stop forcing it on you.